Considerations When Picking a First Dance Song

wedding-danceThe first song you dance to as husband and wife should be significant to you both. Choosing this song can be a stressful task especially if you and your soon to be spouse can’t agree on a song. There are certain things you should consider when trying to make this decision.

Choosing your first dance song is easier to do if you can agree on a type of music or specific artist you both like. This will help you narrow down your choices and find a song that has meaning to you. For some couples it is a country song while for others it may be rock.

The song you choose should say something about your relationship. The more meaningful it is the more memorable it will be for both of you. It will also allow your guests a glimpse into the private aspects of your relationship and will make your first dance more meaningful for them too.

The lyrics of your first dance song should be appropriate for a wedding, so it is best to carefully listen when choosing a song. For example, some songs that sound like they are about romantic love thriving are actually about a breakup, something you don’t want to hear on your own wedding day.

Regardless of what genre you choose your first dance song should be one that you can easily dance to. If you have your heart set on a song that is not easy to dance to any talented band can play the song using the rhythm that will help you dance to it. Ensuring that the band you hire can sing the song you want to use should also be part of the process of choosing one.

Keep in mind that your first dance does not necessarily have to be the traditional slow dance, which almost exclusively limits you to ballads. Using a more upbeat song is acceptable at today’s weddings. This allows you to relax and have fun on the dance floor. Many couples purposely choose a song that they know their guests will come out and dance to towards the end of the song. Doing so can add a whole new element of togetherness to your wedding.

If you are truly struggling to choose a song, taking dance classes together can help you and your partner make the decision. Your dance teacher should be able to advise you on the type of song you will want to choose depending on your comfort level and skill when it comes to dancing.

While you want to enjoy the spotlight on your wedding day your guests will appreciate it if you choose a short song. Any song that takes more than three or four minutes may make your guests antsy. To choose a song that is not too long, consider watching music videos on the Internet. This will help you determine how long a song is so that you can make the right choice.


Is It Okay to Skip Buying Wedding Favors?

wedding-favorsTraditionally, brides and grooms have given their guests wedding favors to take home with them at the end of the day. However, this is an expense that can quickly add up, leading some couples to question whether or not they have to give wedding favors.

In today’s world, weddings are much more laid back than they ever were before. Couples are ditching traditional rules and customs to create their own instead, and many question things like whether wedding favors are really necessary at all. When it comes to wedding favors, some couples choose to skip them altogether while others choose to make the favors themselves in order to cut down on costs.

Homemade baked goods, jams and jellies are an option for couples who are able and willing to prepare them. These can be packaged and distributed to guests at the wedding reception. Another option is for couples to purchase bulk items such as travel sized scented candles, which is often the most cost effective way to give wedding favors to one’s guests.

Some couples offer a dessert bar at their wedding and allow each guest to take home something from the bar, to serve as their wedding favor. M&Ms and other similar candies can be offered at a dessert bar, with everyone getting a small goodie bag or Mason jar they can fill with the candies they choose. Goodie bags can often be personalized with the names of the bride and groom as well as the wedding date.

Others choose a more environmentally friendly but still affordable item, such as packages of seeds that guests can take home and plant. Couples can choose flower or vegetable seeds and distribute them to each guest.

Charitable couples sometimes choose to make a donation to a worthy organization in the names of their wedding guests. This allows couples and their guests to give back and avoids creating extra work and extra stress for the bride and groom.

Couples who are truly strapped for cash may shun the idea of wedding favors altogether. This is an acceptable decision for couples to make as they are not obligated to distribute favors to their wedding guests. It is done as a courtesy to guests but it is a courtesy that some couples simply can’t afford.

Those who skip buying favors should make it a point to let their guests know that they appreciate the time they took to come to their wedding. Guests will not want to leave feeling like their presence at the wedding was not valued. This is why many couples choose to give wedding favors even if they are very small ones, and you can usually find cool wedding favors on a budget if you use some creativity.

Putting together favors at home can be extremely time consuming and many couples don’t have the energy to spare when planning their wedding. This is one popular reason to skip the wedding favors completely. Whatever a couple chooses to do should be accepted by their guests. Though wedding favors are meant to act as a thank you they are not the only way to say it.

Creating a Wedding Trivia Game

Weding Trivia

Keeping guests entertained at a wedding can sometimes be a challenge. However, there are some creative ways to make it easier to accomplish. One of them is by creating a wedding trivia game. This can be played by guests during the cocktail hour or during slow parts of the reception.

One idea for a wedding trivia game is to take information about the bride and groom’s relationship and turn it into your own version of trivial pursuit. You can take the board game itself and then altar the board to fit your needs or you can create one from scratch if you have the proper skills to do so. You can also find general facts about weddings to use in your trivia game to make things a little more interesting.

Another idea is to write down a list of both true and false statements about the couple. Each guest can be read a statement and has to determine whether or not it is true. If your budget allows for it, offer a small prize to anyone who correctly identifies a statement as true or false. This makes the wedding reception interactive in ways that will keep everyone entertained and eliminates any awkwardness among guests.

When creating a trivia game about the couple getting married it is helpful to get ideas from invited guests and will make them feel more involved in the process. If everyone contributes a piece of trivia they know about the couple the game will be more interesting and informative than it would have been otherwise.

A wedding trivia game can concentrate on a couple’s life together or it can concentrate on what the bride and the groom were like as children. Multiple choice questions can be written and guests can take turns choosing the answer they believe is correct.

A more general wedding trivia game can simply ask questions about the time honored wedding traditions that so many have practiced. It can also include questions about weddings that may stump the majority of the guests in attendance. This is a great way for everyone to learn more about weddings in general. Wedding related statistics or strange wedding facts and records can be incorporated into the trivia game as well.

These games don’t have to be specifically about weddings and often other topics are chosen by couples. For example, if the majority of the guests at a wedding are interested in a particular subject that subject can be used for the trivia game. Many couples will choose a TV show that they and their guests enjoy and ask trivia questions about the show. For guests who may get bored easily this will likely be a more interesting experience than answering trivia questions about the bride and groom and their relationship.

A child’s trivia game can be bought or created for weddings where there are younger guests in attendance. This can be about a beloved cartoon character they all like or even general trivia that will stimulate them while still allowing them to have fun and avoid becoming bored.

Entertaining guests is the main goal of any wedding trivia game, and these ideas should help you create one that is tailor-made to your wants and needs.

Antiquated Wedding Traditions to Skip

wedding-traditionsThere are many old fashioned wedding traditions that it has become perfectly acceptable to quit doing. As times have changed, so have traditions and expectations surrounding weddings.

One of the antiquated traditions most couples are choosing to skip these days is the introduction of the entire wedding party during the reception. Making this introduction tends to disrupt the flow of a wedding reception and requires scattered wedding party members to converge. This is especially being skipped at smaller weddings (generally less than 100 guests) where it is more likely that the guests in attendance are already familiar with the wedding party.

While in the past couples used both place and escort cards these days they tend to choose one or the other. The escort and place cards essentially fulfill the same purpose, and since they are redundant they amount to nothing more than extra work in setting up for the reception. That is the main reason people choose to ditch this old wedding tradition to streamline the process. It is more efficient for everyone to have guests pick up their place cards as they enter the reception venue and head straight to their table. This way the guests remain organized in their seating yet still get to choose who they sit next to at their assigned table.

The days of couples sitting at the “sweetheart table” are pretty quickly ending. Many feel that this makes the bride and groom look pretentious and that it also makes it more difficult for them to enjoy their own wedding dinner. At today’s weddings couples usually sit at the same table as their wedding party and/or parents. Since couples are expected to visit every table during the reception, it is often more convenient for them to be at table with the people they are closest to.

A fairly new trend for couples getting married is to eschew the idea of not seeing each other on their wedding day before the ceremony begins. While in the past, doing so was thought to be bad luck, couples are abandoning this idea in droves. At the opposite end of the spectrum many couples are now coming together on their wedding day, immediately before their ceremony begins to take what is called a “first look” photo.

In the past, a bride’s attendants were expected to be female and groomsmen were expected to be male. However, times are changing and many brides are asking men to serve as one of their attendants while many grooms are asking women to serve as their grooms-person.

Brides are also increasingly choosing someone other than their father to walk them down the aisle, or even choosing to walk down the aisle on their own. The mentality at most weddings is no longer that the bride’s father is doing a service by handing her over to her soon-to-be husband. In many cases, brides are now choosing a brother or other close family member to escort them down the aisle, especially brides that were raised by a single mother. This is proof that antiquated wedding traditions are often skipped.

A Wedding Cake with a Twist

Smurfs Wedding CakeIf you are having a wedding reception after your ceremony, then you probably are planning a traditional event with foods, drinks, and dancing until late into the evening. Part of that event is usually serving wedding cake, which is by and large of the most popular parts of the entire celebration. Typically, a wedding cake will be decorative and use the standard palette of wedding colors so it blends in with the rest of the decorations. However, some couples prefer to do something a little more exotic with their wedding cake to make it more memorable and unique. Here are a few ideas that will help you add a twist to an old classic if you are thinking of trying something a little different.

Themed Wedding Cake

One of the most fun things you can do to make your wedding cake remarkable is to create a themed design based on one of your favorite movies, television stories, or books. Your guests will love looking at a complete scene crafted out of the sweetest tasting stuff on Earth, and your wedding cake designer will also enjoy having the ability to be more creative. If you are into the Smurfs, for instance, you could have a scene where Gargamel’s castle is at the top of the cake and Papa Smurf is leading the rest of the gang down the side of the cake to the mushroom patch below. Whatever you happen to be into, there’s a way to depict it as a scene on your wedding cake.

Sparklers on the Cake

Another interesting thing you can do to your wedding cake is bring it in to the reception hall with sparklers burning on top of it. This is the same concept as using birthday candles on a cake, except you use sparklers instead. To achieve this, you don’t use regular sparklers but instead buy bottle sparklers that can also be used on top of cakes without damaging the frosting. That way, you get all the fun and attention that you’re looking for without making the cake unable to be eaten.

Cupcakes Instead of Regular Cake

Lastly, a fun option for people who want the classic flavor of wedding cake but don’t want to deal with the hassle of a cake cutting ceremony is to have cupcakes instead of regular cake. The best part of having cupcakes is that they are really easy to hand out to your guests and they look fantastic when sitting on your buffet tables. Also, if you want to have a variety of different flavor options available, it is really easy to do with cupcakes so you can literally have dozens of flavors. If you know of a guest who likes a particular flavor, you can even make on especially for them.

No matter how you choose to put a twist on the classic tradition of having a wedding cake, your guests are sure to enjoy their delicious treat. From grand entrances to easy serving techniques, there are as many options with presenting your wedding cake as there are flavors and frostings; so think outside the box and make your wedding cake everything you’ve dreamed about!

Choosing Your Wedding Flowers

Wedding FlowersWedding flowers are a very important part of any wedding decorations because they bring together the beauty and colors that are represented at the event. Many couples choose to go with a traditional look that predominately feature roses, but there are several varieties of flowers available that are considered appropriate. Regardless of what type of flowers you want and what colors you choose, there are a few important things to keep in mind when choosing your wedding flowers.


Keeping your overall costs in check is crucial for every purchase you make while planning your wedding, but flowers can get very expensive in a big hurry. For this reason, you need to plan out the costs of your wedding flowers very carefully before you begin purchasing. You’ll need to consider all the places you want flowers including as centerpieces on your reception tables and the bouquet you’ll be throwing after your ceremony. Once you know how much you have to spend and all the total amount of flowers you need to buy, you can accurately keep the cost within your budget.


Choosing which florist you want to use is another important part of the flower buying process. First of all, you want to make sure that you choose a company that is local to where your wedding is going to be to ensure that you get the freshest flowers possible. Also, you’ll want to make sure the reputation of the florist is good in that area so that you have high quality service. Finally, you’ll want to make sure that the florist you choose is the best value in that area. Most cities have more than one florist, so visiting all the shops in that area to ask questions and get pricing information is a really great way to make sure you are getting the best bang for your buck. Don’t be afraid to ask for some photos of their previous work or even some referrals; after all you will be spending a sizeable amount of money for their services.

Stay Area and Season-Specific

When selecting the colors and varieties you want for your wedding flowers, make sure you consider the area surrounding your ceremony and reception location along with the time of year. Integrating flowers that are found locally can be a great way to save some money since they are usually cheaper, but they also give a very local-feel to the event which can make it even more memorable. Furthermore, choosing flowers that represent the current season will also make things feel more welcoming to your guests. If you are having a winter wedding, for example, you may want to have white and light blue flowers to blend with nature. If you are having a spring wedding, on the other hand, you can get away with bright flowers like yellow or orange to make the event really “pop”.

Just match up the colors as best as you can to give your guests the most enchanting experience possible and it is sure to make your own experience even better.

Tips for Choosing Memorable Wedding Favors

Candy as Wedding FavorsThough many people consider their wedding as a celebration to showcase your love for one another, it is also the perfect opportunity to say “thank you” to your friends and family who have supported you over the years. By giving your guests who show up wedding favors, you’re not only saying thanks but also giving them a token of your love and appreciation. Because they are so meaningful, it is important to put some real thought and consideration into your choice for wedding favors. Rather than choosing something average and common, you should take your time to find memorable wedding favors that your guests will truly love. Fortunately, there are some good tips to help you in your mission, and we will cover some of them below.

Keep It Useful

Keeping your wedding favors useful is one of the best ways to ensure your guests will both love and use their gift. Popular choices for useful wedding favors include kitchen gadgets, candles, and even food or drink items like coffee and hot cocoa mix which are all certain to be used either immediately or frequently. You obviously want to make sure the item has overtones that reflect your special day and the romance you share, but keeping it useful means it will actually be used by your guests.

Be Thoughtful

If you are like most couples, the people you invite to your wedding will likely be friends and family that you will know a bit about. It is always a good idea to take advantage of your personal knowledge of your guests to choose the best memorable wedding favors. If you give your guests something like a picture frame, make sure you include a photo of you as a couple, your childhood home, or another thoughtful photo to reflect your past. Making your wedding favors very personal is a great way to make your guests smile and feel appreciated.

Keep With Your Theme

Most weddings are conceived of utilizing a specific theme or look for the whole event. Whether you are doing something that is very involved like a rustic country wedding or are just following a specific color scheme, matching your wedding favors with that theme is crucial to keep things in balance. If you are having a rustic wedding, for instance, you could choose a rustic or antique-looking wedding favor for your guests. Whatever your theme, be thoughtful in your favor choices to make everything mesh well.

Candy is Dandy

Almost everyone has a “sweet tooth”, so giving your guests chocolates, caramels, or other types of candy is a great way to make sure they will love their gift. It is very difficult to find someone who doesn’t like candy, so it is pretty much a foolproof option. If you choose to give candy as wedding favors at your reception, make sure to offer a bit of a variety. Though nearly everyone likes candy, many people have personal preferences so offering a variety will ensure that everyone is satisfied.

Presentation is Key

When it comes to wedding favors, presentation can make even a very ordinary gift seem spectacular. Instead of just laying your favors on the table without much effort, you can create a display such as creating a centerpiece or including them along with other items such as flowers in your centerpieces. If your wedding favors won’t work for that, you can jazz them up a bit with some simple ribbons or by placing them in a decorative box or bag. The more effort you put into the presentation of your wedding favors, the better received they will be by your guests.